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September 16th, 2013

How you can be inspired by the championship attitudes of great leaders

- by Charlie Adams

Attitude and leadership.


I will be speaking on those two important topics at the fourth Annual Executive Leadership Forum of the Michiana Society for Human Resource Management in October. Among the insights I will share is that there are two kinds of leaders.

There are leaders that have a title, such as General Manager, Principal, Head Coach, Vice President of Sales and so forth. It is important that they realize that just because they nave a nameplate on their door or desk, that does not make them a leader. What makes them a leader is their ability to set a vision, communicate clearly, motivate, get people in the right places and lead by example.

There are leaders that do not have a title. Those are often the employees within an organization. They can lead by showing the three attitudes of being positive, solution centered and team oriented. A great example of that kind of leader would be a lady I worked with at the CBS television station in South Bend named Linda. Though part time, she did more than many full timers. Her positive attitude was contagious and whatever needed to be done, she would initiate it getting done. For years we flew in a helicopter to cover Friday night high school football games. Linda took care of all of the paperwork to get clearance to land the chopper. She led the way in finding a way for us to land on a parking garage downtown when we were done for the night.

I am based out of South Bend, IN, where one of the greatest leaders – John Wooden – taught English and coached South Bend Central High for 9 years before eventually getting to UCLA, where he won 10 national championships in basketball.

While I understand leaders have to be firm and demanding at times, especially in Sales, one of the biggest mistakes I have seen leaders make is focusing on the negative too much and not being encouraging enough. It is almost like they are afraid if they are too positive then people will eventually not work as hard. Here is what Wooden had to say:

“In my opinion, one of the greatest motivating tools we have is a pat on the back. It doesn’t have to be a physical pat – it could be a smile, a nod. Everyone likes to be complimented in one way or another.

Another technique is listening. A leader must listen to those under their supervision. I believe that has been overlooked a lot. We don’t know a thing that we haven’t learned from somebody else in one way or another. And one of the ways we do that is by listening.” – John Wooden

An encouraging leader! Remember Linda up above in this story. I used to always thank her for her hard work with that Friday night show, and she appreciated it.

Having an inner fire and caring deeply about the place you lead is an important part of leadership. I once did a 1 on 1 interview with Pat Summitt, the winningest women’s college basketball coach of all time. She coached the Lady Vols of Tennessee from 1974 to 2012.

Years ago, when Coach Summit traveled from Tennessee to Pennsylvania to recruit a top high school player, she was 8 ½ months pregnant. While in the home of the recruit, she started to feel labor symptoms. Her assistant coach excused them from the recruit’s living room and got ready to drive her leader to the nearest hospital. Summitt gritted her teeth and said, “I was born in Tennessee, played there, coach there, and will die there. My baby is going to be born in Tennessee!”

They were in Allentown, PA.

The assistant drove furiously to the Tennessee private plane. The pilot pleaded to land in a neighboring state. Summitt told them to get to Tennessee. Period! They did – barely – and she had her baby there.

In my 23 years in television news I had leaders who were very involved in running stations and leaders that you hardly saw. I am a big believer that the leader that is hands on is the most inspiring.

I once spoke at Polygon Company, a fiber glass company. The owners would often be hauling fiber glass when big orders had everyone pushed to the max. When the owner and creator of the company is out there busting his tail, it inspires the people.

Kenny McCreary was once assistant GM of a upscale restaurant in a hotel. He started out as a room service deliverer who would not only deliver food to rooms, but quickly set their tables. Hotel owners kept getting so much feedback on how positive and nice he was that he kept getting promoted, eventually to asst. GM. As a leader, he was hands on. He would arrive to work in a extra sharp suit and tie. “But if a cleaning person is sick I take off the suit jacket and roll up the shirt sleeves and get to work on her job,” Kenny told me. “If glasses of ice water need filled up, I will do that as well.”

When your leader with a title is hands on, those below can’t help but be inspired. And if they’re not, they need to be gone.

Another aspect of leadership I will be talking about is a leader’s ability to instill confidence in others. I once was part of a speaking event with Merlin Olsen.  When Merlin was a new actor on Little House on the Prairie and playing the role of Jonathan Garvey, he got a script that had him with more lines than the established star of the show, Michael Landon. Landon was also the leader as executive producer. Olsen went to see him in his office. He expressed concern that he was not established enough as an actor to have more lines. Landon looked up and sincerely said, “If I didn’t think you could do it, you wouldn’t have more lines than me.”

Bang! That created an incredible amount of confidence in Olsen.

My keynotes and seminars are built from the thousands of interviews I have done over the years. I have interviewed former Notre Dame coach Lou Holtz over 100 times. Here is his synopsis of leadership:

“If you are going to be a leader, you better have a vision of where you want to go and a plan of how to get there. You better lead by example and you better hold people accountable, and you better make sure they all share the same core values. Core values will hold your country together, your team together, hold your family. These are things we believe and we aren’t going to compromise. I don’t care who you are. The leadership will do it.” – Lou Holtz

I will be delivering Stoke the Fire Within with the emphasis on leadership and How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing at the October SHRM event.

click here for information on attending

For information on bringing these programs to your organization, contact me at the information below.

Charlie Adams

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Had a chance to get all wound up while delivering How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing to Berrien RESA last week.

This week I will be share that talk as the closing keynote at the RAM conference in Natchez, MS for the Mississippi Department of Rehabilitation Services. Patrick House, the winner of season ten of NBC’s The Biggest Loser, will deliver the opening keynote.

Charlie Adams Motivation

Programs include:
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and
KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered. Everything from customer service to organization chemistry comes back to attitude!

* Stoke the Fire Within – this peak performance keynote is ideal for opening or closing conferences, retreats, meetings and off-site days. The inner core is tailored to the theme of the event, such as leadership, embracing change or team.

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing! If people haven’t build a foundation to have a positive attitude, it’s hard to try to train them in customer service)

Contact information:

Direct line: 574 – 807 – 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

Why these programs are ideal for your groups and meetings:

* A message that connects with your audience

* An interactive program full of energy and humor

* Take away tools that your audience can put to use right away

September 7th, 2013

How words can change a life

- by Charlie Adams, author and creator of the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing book and seminar/keynote

There is a nightly television program where I live that focuses on positive events in the community. Because I speak on positive attitude, I guest host the program from time to time.

A young man named Kyle Akin was one of my guests when I hosted this past week. Kyle has joined me from time to time when I deliver How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing in 2 hour or half day form.

Born with cerebral palsy, tv station camera people helped him out of his chair into the chair on set. There, Kyle settled in and shared his story. He said that when he was in middle school and even early in high school he did not think he was smart enough or capable of getting into college. “Often times I caught myself merely just sliding by in classes thinking it was ‘okay’ because in my mind I was doing the best I could,” he said. “Then in the summer before my eighth grade year something happened to me which sparked an entirely different thought process and would change my life forever!”

His parents got him tickets to hear motivational speaker Mike Singletary (photo below). In a room filled with men and women in business suits, Kyle and his Dad were seated in the back. After Singletary’s riveting talk, he started to exit.

“After he was walking off,” Kyle said, “he started to walk toward me and came over and shook my hand. He told me something I would never forget. He said ‘you can do whatever you want to do.’ He shook my Dad’s hand and walked out. I was in shock of what just happened and how an individual of that stature would come over to me and tell me something like that! He chose me off all people in that room! It was then that my mindset started to change and I started to believe I could overcome this adversity and achieve my goals in life.”

This is the life changing impact a professional speaker can have on someone. I was in a hotel one night to speak the next morning when I turned on CNN with Piers Morgan. He had comedian/actor George Lopez on, who shared that he had been abandoned by his mother growing up. He said the school brought in a motivational speaker who talked about dreams and goals and how you can do it! Lopez said he had never heard those things until that moment and that it changed his life forever.

Kyle said that helped give him the confidence to do weight training in high school. “I started taking Scott Bovenkerk’s class with two main ideas in mind,” he said. “I felt like I had to prove to others that, while I may be disabled, I was just like anyone else. I could do anything anyone else could do. The other reason being to try and impress the girls. And while I exceeded people’s expectations, including my own, my target audience did not act so impressed.”


(photo of Kyle several years ago)

Kyle took this weight lifting class all four years of high school.

“Mr. Bovenkerk acted as my assistant most days,” he said. “When you work with someone long enough you learn when they are and are not giving you 100 percent, or when you still have something left in the tank. It was these times he had the most effect on me. He yelled at me to ‘come on’ and ‘push’ so that everyone in the room would know I was struggling, This would have an effect on my life. The lesson I learned here is a simple but valuable one. It taught me how to push myself, how just when I’m thinking I can’t go any further, to know that I can, and if work hard enough, I can and I will. ‘If I can believe it, I can achieve that and more. For when I left Washington High I was stronger than I could ever have imagined. This was the most important thing I learned in all my high school years and it had nothing to do with academics. This is where I learned how to push myself, to be the best I can be, and then some.”

In the keynote Stoke the Fire Within that I have delivered for years, I talk about that inner fire we all have and how certain things can ignite it.

“In the summer before I enrolled at Holy Cross College (near Notre Dame),” he said, “an individual told me in his professional opinion that I would never be able to get more than a two year degree in a college setting. This angered me to the utmost extreme at first because I knew to be anything in this life I would need a college degree. But there was never any doubt in my mind that I would graduate someday, and so I set out from day  one to prove him wrong. To this day that phrase is my main motivating factor and will remain to be for as long as I live, that there will always be someone out there who doesn’t believe in me. For there is something this individual left out of his professional opinion; he forgot to take into account my will to succeed!”

Kyle got his four year degree from Holy Cross College. He shared with me a motivational quote that he has always leaned on.

“Vince Lombardi said ‘the difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.’ That’s right, baby!!”

Kyle is doing great in the working world these days. He joins me for the seminar form of my positive attitude program from time to time. That rascal! One time I did a half day program on how attitude impacts customer service for Lafayette Savings Bank and had him end with a 15 minute motivational talk. Afterwards everybody was all ‘Kyle this’ and ‘Kyle that!’ I was like, “What about me?!? I just gave you 3 hours and 45 minutes!” They were like, ‘move aside so we can talk to Kyle.’”

Charlie Adams

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Charlie Adams Motivation

Programs include:
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and
KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered. Everything from customer service to organization chemistry comes back to attitude!

* Stoke the Fire Within – this peak performance keynote is ideal for opening or closing conferences, retreats, meetings and off-site days.

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing! If people haven’t build a foundation to have a positive attitude, it’s hard to try to train them in customer service)

Contact information:

Direct line: 574 – 807 – 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

August 29th, 2013

How your feet can make you more positive

- by Charlie Adams, author and creator of the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing book and seminar/keynote

Laura Schmidt is a believer in how important a positive attitude is in life.

“A positive attitude makes all the difference in the world,” she told me. “I believe it is more important than skills or gifts. My parents were very positive and I have spent the last 20 years in Mary Kay sales, which is a very positive organization.”

Laura, who heard me speak in Kansas City where she lives, writes positive sayings on her bathroom mirror with lip liner, has positive post it notes all over the place and index cards with positive messages on her dashboard of her car.

On a trip with her husband and children, she was riding with her feet up and thinking about positive affirmations and how the subconscious mind is most receptive early in the morning and late at night. Laura looked over at her husband, Garret,and said, “I think I’m going to put positive affirmations on the toes of socks!”

And notes to self® was born!

Laura (photo above) created a line of inspirational socks. The first ones came after long talks with her daughter Elaine, a high school volleyball player. Elaine wrestled with confidence on the court, so Laura’s first sock read ‘I am confident’ and debuted at her daughter’s volleyball practice in 2011. It was a big hit with the players and coaches. Laura then had many other positive messages made on socks. One time Elaine had a friend going through a tough time so Elaine brought her a pair of socks to school that read ‘Strength.’

“The subconscious mind is most accessible first thing in the morning and late at night,” she said, “when the conscious filters of our minds aren’t fully ‘up’. I thought, ‘What if I put positive affirmations on the toes of socks?’ Then at least twice a day, the person wearing them would see those words, and they’d be training their minds, without even trying.”

“I think the socks are especially important for our kids, training their minds to think positively,” she said. “Too often, we’re telling them what they’re doing wrong, or what not to do. We forget to teach them how to focus on what they want, the importance of a positive attitude and how it really makes a difference. Wouldn’t it be great if kids too young to read had seen “I am smart” so many times, that it became part of their thought process, and it could possibly be one of the first phrases that they learn to read?’ That kind of positive message could impact their lives forever.”

“I know how hard it is to keep a good habit going,” she said, “but with these socks you look down and they’re there, and when you look down you think not only about the words on the socks but also ‘my Aunt gave me these’ or ‘my Dad gave me these and that person believes in me.’  I like the idea that someone wearing the socks sees a phrase such as ‘I am strong’ first thing in the morning when they are putting on their shoes, and at the end of the day. All day long, that positive reminder, said in the present tense, is there. The wearer has the choice to share that message with others, or it can be private. Either way, that positive phrase is influencing their thoughts and actions.”

Laura and her husband were recently in South Bend, IN, where I live, as their daughter Elaine is a freshman at the University of Notre Dame. Laura gave me a pair of the ‘I am awesome’ socks (photo above). She told me that sock is still the #1 sock. “It’s a compliment and something you can give to anyone,” she said. “The ‘I am confident’ sock is not something you would give to anyone. You would have to know that person a little, but the Awesome one works with anyone.”

‘I am blessed’ and ‘Happy’ are among the most popular socks.

Laura supports other small U.S. businesses by having them made exclusively in the U.S.A. Socks are regularly donated to non-profit organizations such as Covenant House in New York. She told me the socks are in 600 stores and it should be 800 by Christmas. Many hospital gift shops carry them and cancer patients sometimes wear the ‘I am strong’ socks that have pink letters when they go into surgery or treatment.  One major league baseball team that is having one of their best seasons has their players wearing the socks.

Laura has a copy of my book How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing. In the book and seminar I share practical ways to stay as positive as possible. These socks are a great example.

If you would like to look at all of the different socks or learn more about Laura, you can go to notestoself.com or email her at laura@notestoself.com

click here to go to notestoself.com

Charlie Adams

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Charlie Adams Motivation

Programs include:
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and
KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered. Everything from customer service to organization chemistry comes back to attitude!

* Stoke the Fire Within – this peak performance keynote is ideal for opening or closing conferences, retreats, meetings and off-site days.

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing! If people haven’t build a foundation to have a positive attitude, it’s hard to try to train them in customer service)

Contact information:

Direct line: 574 – 807 – 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

Why these programs are ideal for your groups and meetings:

* A message that connects with your audience

* An interactive program full of energy and humor

* Take away tools that your audience can put to use right away

To read previous newsletters click here

How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!

How the book and seminar or keynote can ignite your life, event or workplace as attitude impacts everything from customer service to team spirit…


Tools inside this book and the seminar include:

The power of Initial Spin

The 4 Needs you need to meet to be content

What I learned from the most positive people I met in 23 years of television news and how their insights can impact you

Step by step on how to start a day positive and stay as positive as possible when the curve balls come

How to get a better balance of work and life

Helpful tools to manage your time

Practical fitness and nutrition insights that can help you to stay more positive

Self Talk tips to keep the negative thoughts on the outside looking in

How forgiveness can help negativity vanish

How encouragement can invigorate the positive attitude culture of any organization or work place

How to create the solution centered atmosphere instead of the ‘they this, they that’ culture that poisons so many places

To order individual copies:

To get group rate so that each member of your organization can have a copy: (574) 784-3482

August 21st, 2013

P.O.W.E.R. – Inspiration from champion Sugar Ray Leonard

- by Charlie Adams, author and creator of the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing book and seminar/keynote

I had the opportunity to be a part of a major fundraiser for the Boys and Girls Club with boxing legend Sugar Ray Leonard. Leonard, now 57,  took home Olympic gold in 1976 and fought his way to world championships in five weight classes, a record still standing today.

Sugar Ray’s message is P.O.W.E.R. It stands for Prepare, Overcome and Win Every Round.

“We are all fighters fighting every day for what we believe in and what we want,” said Sugar Ray, reminding us that our fear should not lie in taking the risk or in potential failure, but our true fear should lie in doing nothing.

He emphasized the importance of determination. “Determination is what turns us into winners,” he said. “Without determination talent never truly develops. Some of us are born with extraordinary talent, but without determination, that talent never hashes out. No one is born a world champion. The successful do what they must to be number one.”

Sugar Ray’s message is that each one of us has to find out what the ‘road work’ is in our profession or goals for life, and then put in that road work. To be a champion, he got up at 5 AM during training to put in his road work of running for miles and miles to build up stamina. His question to you is, what is your road work?

He also encourages everyone to determine what their definition of victory is in life. Is it becoming the very best in your profession? Is it reaching certain goals? For some, he said, victory is simply doing their very best every day.

Sugar Ray won the great majority of his fights (36 wins, 3 losses), but he had those three losses. The one that stung the most was to Roberto “Hands of Stone” Duran in Montreal in 1980. Over 46,000 people watched as Duran turned the fight into a brawl and defeated Sugar Ray.

“You can’t have success until you’ve known failure,” he said of that crushing loss that hurt even more because Duran had cursed Sugar Ray’s wife at the weigh-in and taunted him in the ring after the fight. “And great motivators will tell you your past does not equal your future unless you want it to.”

When defeat comes in life, it is time to analyze what happened, and utilize strategy. Sugar Ray realized he had no business trying to box Duran up close and physical, so his strategy for the next fight was to move around the ring. He also knew Duran was known for hitting the party circuit and eating like a horse for a period of time after fights, so Sugar Ray worked it to where their rematch was his next fight. His advisors said he should have a tune up fight in between, but he knew Duran would not work like he did. In their rematch, Sugar Ray beat him so badly that Duran threw up his arms half way through the fight and quit.

If you want to reach your potential in whatever you do, then Sugar Ray says it comes down to a single principle. What are you willing to do everyday that the competition is not?  He said for him it was running extra miles, training longer hours, preparing for longer rounds.

In 1987, Sugar Ray took on Marvelous Marvin Hagler, who was considered invincible.  Hagler’s menacing bald head was impervious to pain. Sugar Ray went up in weight class to challenge Hagler. He applied his principle of being willing to do what the competition is not. “To beat a guy like Hagler, you do things twice as hard and twice as long,” he said, “so in training camp, instead of doing three-minute rounds of sparring with one minute rest, I was doing six-minute rounds with 30 seconds rest. I had sparring partners wear 8 ounce professional gloves, while I wore 14 ounce training gloves, to get the sensation, or the presence, of pain.”

Sugar Ray defeated Hagler (photo below).

Sugar Ray won partly because, as he always tells audiences, you have to believe in yourself.

“No matter who I went up against, I had that optimism. I had that positive attitude that I could beat anyone,” he said. “They asked me, “Ray, what happens if you lose?” I said, “You know what? That’s not in my vocabulary; I can’t spell the word.” It sounded kind of arrogant-and maybe it was arrogant-but it was true. I was so confident when I was fighting that I didn’t think I could lose to anyone.”

When I deliver How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing, I talk about the 4 Needs and one of them being something to believe in.  The book “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale is one of the greatest and biggest selling attitude books in history. It stayed on the New York Times bestseller list for 186 straight weeks. The very first words of the book are … “believe in yourself!”

Boxing is a very motivational subject because it is like life. We all get knocked down. The question is, do we get back up? In the final Rocky movie (Rocky Balboa, 2006) there is a powerful scene where Rocky’s grown son is struggling with a lot of things including a negative and never satisfied boss at work. During a late night walk, Rocky delivers an on-the-spot motivational talk:

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!” – Rocky Balboa, 2006.

Keep fighting!

Charlie Adams

August 19th, 2013

8 Ways to have more Positive Self Talk

- by Charlie Adams, author and creator of the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing book and seminar/keynote

Each of us has tens of thousands of thoughts a day.  One of the things many of us wrestle with is keeping the great majority of those positive.

While delivering the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing program recently, I brought someone up front. We pretended they were inside their house. I walked up to the imaginary door on stage and made a knock knock sound. She opened and I walked swiftly in slightly bumping her as I entered. I proceeded to say negative things about her house, how she had arranged the furniture, her outfit, her dreams and goals, self worth and all kinds of things. Obviously, I didn’t go too far but the point was clear. We would NEVER allow someone to come in off the street into the privacy of our homes and mess with the furniture and says all kinds of bad things about us. Can you imagine how preposterous that would be? The police would get dialed so fast that heads would spin.

However, we have no problem having negative thoughts come in and make themselves at home, over and over again. We let them beat us up and down.

Here are ten suggestions that you can utilize to turn those negative thoughts to positive ones

1) When they come, imagine a NO VACANCY sign and say to yourself ‘only positive thoughts allowed here!’

2) If you are in a public place like getting groceries or waiting in line to buy popcorn and you have a negative thought, yell out as loud as you can  “I am the love machine of all love machines!!’ After you see  the looks you get, you will never have a negative thought again.

3) While I highly doubt #2 will ever get utilized, lets get back to more practical insights. Say one of these four words: STOP, CANCEL, NEXT, or DEFLECT.

4) Wear a negative thought rubber band and when goes give yourself a good solid THACK!!

5) Imagine yourself going to one of the old time television sets where you actually had to get up and walk to change the channels (HORRORS!!) and picture yourself changing the channel to the positive channel in your mind.

6) Picture your mind as a garden and any negative thoughts as weeds. Lean over and weed them out, throwing them into a plastic bag where they will lose their color and die.

7) Think of the story I often share in programs of the two warrior Indians. One is older and wiser while the other is younger and eager to learn. The older one tells of the two wolves that fight within him. One wolf is dar and villed with anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority and all kinds of bad stuff. The other one is lighter and filled with joy, peace, love, hope, humility, empathy, generosity, compassion, faith and kindness. When asked by the younger warrior which wolf wins, the elder answers, ‘the one I feed the most.” BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU FEED YOUR MIND.

8) Think of a vacuum cleaner coming on immediately upon hearing a negative thought and sucking it right up!

One of the key things in developing positive self talk is that you have to set the tone. Don’t leave your mind in neutral. Go on the offensive about what kind of positive thoughts you are going to have each day. At the end of each day make a concerted effort to make sure you go to sleep with positive thoughts. In the mega best seller The Power of Positive Thinking, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale shares the story of a man who often would read the 23rd Psalms at bedtime. He said he did it so he wouldn’t go to sleep with an earful of trouble, but with a mind full of peace.

Charlie Adams

Gray

Charlie Adams Motivation

Programs include:
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and
KEEP the Darn Thing!!”
This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered.

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

Contact information:

Direct line: 574 – 807 – 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!

How the book and seminar or keynote can ignite your life, event or workplace


Tools inside this book include:

The power of Initial Spin


The 4 Needs you need to meet to be content

What I learned from the most positive people I met in 23 years of television news and how their insights can impact you

Step by step on how to start a day positive and stay as positive as possible when the curve balls come

How to get a better balance of work and life

Helpful tools to manage your time

Practical fitness and nutrition insights that can help you to stay more positive

Self Talk tips to keep the negative thoughts on the outside looking in

How forgiveness can help negativity vanish

How encouragement can invigorate the positive attitude culture of any organization or work place

How to create the solution centered atmosphere instead of the ‘they this, they that’ culture that poisons so many places

August 8th, 2013

On Fire Customer Service at The Wildfire
A few years ago I was in Chicago to speak to Accurate Perforating on how positive attitude is so closely tied to customer service. My program was to be at the Wildfire Restaurant where they had reserved a room for their people. A cab dropped me off in front of the restaurant at 4:15. I wanted to get there early to set up and go over the location. I paid the driver, grabbed all of my materials, and slid out of the cab. Off he went, faster than Dale Earnhardt, Jr. I groped for my wallet, only to find it MISSING! Agggggghh! Is there a worse feeling in the world? The cab, reaching 60 mph in 1.8 seconds, was long gone.

The whole evening had changed. Now I had to take measures to try to get the wallet back and all the joy that goes with that process and try to stay focused on the 60 minute presentation I would be doing within a couple of hours. I stumbled into the Wildfire Restaurant. They weren’t even open yet, but the head greeters, Harold and John, immediately sensed I was “discombobulated.” I spewed out my whole situation and they reassured me that many times the cab comes right back with wallets, cell phones, the works. They made me feel like my crisis was the most important thing, even though their phone was ringing constantly with reservation requests.They helped me with cab company numbers. I couldn’t remember the name of the company as my receipt was in my wallet.

(photograph – The Wildfire Restaurant, Chicago, IL)


I wandered into the side room that I would be speaking in later in the evening. Alan and Ana, who were serving the room, were incredibly supportive to me as I flailed away in Operation Recover Wallet. With 5000 cabs in Chicago, this would be fun.

For some reason, I decided to call my office voice mail. Might as well, I had called everyone else. Here is what I heard: “Hello, Mr. Adams, my name is Amir. I just found your wallet in the street. I actually work at the Wildfire. I’ve got your wallet. You can come by here.”

Amir had found the wallet by the curb as he was walking across the street to work. His only thought was to look for identification to call the person that had lost it and then go about his business of being the best waiter he could be for his customers.

Well, I ran back in the restaurant and yelled, “Where’s Amir?!” John at the front desk pointed me in his direction and I darted back that way! He saw me and immediately figured I must be the poor sap that was walletless. He walked over and gave it to me. I gave him a bear hug. Forget handshaking. He deserved a bear hug!

I knew I had a $20 and some other bills in there so I reached in and grabbed the $20 to give him. He wouldn’t take it. “I just see that as part of my job, Mr. Adams,” he said. “I was glad to find it for you.”

This young man was first class the whole way. Later, I thought I would recognize him in my Talk. I thought I would bring him in at the end of my Talk, share the story, and let the Accurate Perforating leaders applaud him. When I pitched that idea to Amir, he politefully declined. “7:30 is a very busy time for me with my customers,” he said humbly. “It would be hard to leave them even for a few minutes.”

As the evening went on, I later learned that John and Harold at the front desk had called countless cab companies trying to locate my wallet, even though they were getting reservations calls constantly. Another worker told me those two had been doing that for me.

I shared the whole Wallet story at the end of my. The Accurate Perforating people beamed. One fellow did actually playfully ask, “That happened in CHICAGO?! Your wallet was actually returned?!”

When I deliver “The Spirit of Customer Service” it is people like Amir that make me believe in the topic. Yes, customer service has been declining for years across the board in some ways, but to say it’s not alive and well at places like the Wildfire Restaurant in Chicago and with many other places and people is wrong. People like young Amir and the Wildfire Restaurant stoke the fire within when it comes to Customer Service!

Charlie Adams

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Charlie Adams at Hesburgh Library

Charlie Adams Motivation

Equipping organizations and people with the attitudes to be positive, solution centered and dedicated to seeking excellence!
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and

KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered.

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Direct line: 574. 807. 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

August 2nd, 2013
The many positives that have come ten years after a shark attack

The remarkable attitude of Bethany Hamilton – by speaker Charlie Adams

In the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing seminar, I share various tools on how to stay upbeat in a very negative world. One of the things I do is collect inspirational DVD’s and watch them regularly. I got rid of cable a couple of years ago and have been so much more positive.

Among the DVD’s I have watched at least 10 times is the movie Soul Surfer. It is about surfer Bethany Hamilton who lost her left arm to a shark at age 13 and yet battled back to surf competitively (photo below of Bethany and the actual board she was on when the tiger shark attacked 10 years ago).

The 23 year old is now engaged to Adam Dirks! Adam is a Christian youth minister who started a faith based organization on the island of Kauai, where Bethany lives. After being introduced by mutual friends, the two went cliff-diving on their first date, and have since enjoyed hiking and playing sports together. He proposed to her in April of this year.


We all face times in life where the future appears daunting. There is a scene in the movie where Bethany, as a young teen, is very down because she doesn’t think boys will like her because she is missing an arm. Her mother, in a scene played by actress Helen Hunt, shows her blond-haired daughter a photo of Venus de Milo and reminds her the image of Aphrodite immortalized in marble was considered the “pinnacle of beauty but she has one arm less than you.”

Known for her resilience and strong faith, Hamilton encourages others to not allow suffering or loss to inhibit their lives. She started a non-profit organization called Friends of Bethany to help shark attack survivors and amputees recover from their trauma.

Despite having lost her left arm, Bethany has battled back to be ranked among the top 50 female surfers in the world. So much of her success comes from her positive attitude. Here are some quotes from her that are very inspiring:

“I don’t need easy. I just need possible.” — Bethany said this when she was training to learn how to surf again.

“I wouldn’t change a thing, because then I wouldn’t be here talking to you, I can embrace more people now than I could with two arms.” — Bethany says this at the end of the movie as a swarm of media is around her after a competition. Her story had become international news and thousands of people from around the world wrote to her and were inspired by her comeback. Had she never been attacked by that shark, she wouldn’t have had an impact on 99% of those people.
“Life is alot like surfing… When you get caught in the impact zone, you’ve got to just get back up. Because you never know what may be over the next wave.”

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11) — Bethany’s church youth pastor, played by Carrie Underwood in the movie, says this early in the film. God had a huge plan for Bethany’s life and took that attack and turned into something helped so many people.

“Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness, heart, talent, guts. That’s what little girls are made of; the heck with sugar and spice.”

The extras on this DVD ‘Soul Surfer’ are powerful when it comes to positive attitude. They are among the best I have ever seen. There are several thirty minute features on Bethany in real life and her comeback. There is one segment where she is being interviewed on a television show and the host says, “Bethany, if you are able to come back and…” Bethany interrupts him and says, “If? ….when!!”

Part of the attitude seminar I deliver focuses on the ’solution centered attitude’ When Bethany started her comeback as a competitive surfer, it was almost impossible for her to paddle out beyond the waves. Surfers do something called a ‘duck dive’ when paddling out. When waves are coming, they grab their board with both hands and go under the wave. Bethany could not do that until her Dad came up with the solution of a handle in the middle front part of the board. She grabs it and goes under the water. Judges don’t care what you use to get out to the waves, so that enabled her to overcome her biggest challenge.

Charlie Adams

Red

Charlie Adams Motivation

Equipping organizations and people with the attitudes to be positive, solution centered and dedicated to seeking excellence!
“How to Build a Positive Attitude and

KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered.

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Direct line: 574. 807. 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

July 23rd, 2013
My visit to tornado ravaged Moore, Oklahoma
by Charlie Adams

Oh my.

That’s what I kept saying to myself last week as I was given a tour of tornado ravaged Moore, Oklahoma. I was in the Oklahoma City area to speak on my positive attitude book at the annual ORA state conference.

The picture below was taken where an entire neighborhood had been demolished on May 20th, two months prior to my visit. I am standing near what used to be a bathroom in that particular house.

The twister spread from one mile to 2.6 miles wide in a 30-second span, is the widest ever recorded. The nearly 295 mph wind speeds of the killer tornado beats every world wind record except the more-than 300-mph reading measured during the Moore, Okla., tornado in 1999.3. It was an EF5. On average, only one out of every 1,000 tornadoes that hit the U.S. each year might be an EF5. It did an estimated $2 billion in damage – double what was first projected. That put it on track to eclipse the twister that crushed Joplin, Mo., in 2011 as the most expensive in U.S. history. The picture below is what the area I was standing in looks like from the air.

I took the picture below of what used to be a 7 11 store. Megan Futrell and her 3 month old son Case were trying to ride out the storm in the store’s walk in cooler. She had just picked up her son at day care and didn’t have time to escape the tornado.
It destroyed the store in seconds, causing the roof to cave in.


She leaves behind a husband and an 8 year old son.

The tornado not only leveled neighborhoods but also destroyed two elementary schools. I took this picture below of what used to be Briarwood Elementary School. No children were killed there, but at nearby Plaza Towers Elementary, 7 children died. In all, 24 people were killed by the tornado with 10 being children. Hundreds of people were injured.

One teacher at Plaza Towers was laying on top of 6 children in the bathroom to protect them. One rescuer told of having to pull a car off of one teacher, who was covering 3 students under her.
Jennifer Simonds, a teacher at Plaza Towers Elementary, went to the emergency room after her arm was crushed as she laid over students to protect them.

When I speak, I often talk about seeking solutions. Faced with a tornado that sounded like 7000 spoons in a massive blender, several teachers sought the solution of music. I learned about teacher Tammy Glasgow, who told her students she loved them and had them play their musical instruments throughout the storm as loud as they could, thinking it could help them deal with the overwhelming fear a little better. Another teacher sang, ‘Jesus Loves You’ over and over the whole time. In one Daycare they sang ‘You are my Sunshine’ until it was gone.

When you tour a devastated site like this, you learn things that you never really thought about. I took this picture of a destroyed shopping center. The store in the middle was a liquor store. The alcohol literally exploded when the tornado hit, causing the store significantly more damage than those around it.

I learned of 65 year old Hemant Bhonde. He and his wife Jerrie clung to each other in the shower until the tornado separated them. He died. She survived. “Walls were hitting me,” Jerrie later told the Today Show. “I was knocked on the floor. I looked around for my husband. I couldn’t find him.”

I learned that just days after the tornado a group of men from Sandy Hook, Connecticut – site of the school shootings – were there with a trailer stocked full of donations from the Sandy Hook community.

Tommy Harper, who lost his home in the 2011 Joplin, Missouri tornado, went to Moore to help rebuild homes. A waitress in Joplin who lost her home in 2011, donated over $300 of her tips to Moore after the tornado. Kevin Durant, the Oklahoma City Thunder basketball star, donated a million dollars to Red Cross. He didn’t say anything about it until the Red Cross announced it, and then he simply sent out a message asking others to donate.

In 2002, my house at the time was hit by a tornado of a much smaller scale. It lifted up a tree and crushed the roof, leading to months of repair work. As I was driven around Moore, I could relate a little bit, but I still had a hard time grasping what I was seeing. When I spoke at the conference in nearby Norman, Oklahoma the next day, it meant a lot to me to speaking to a group that was made up totally of Oklahoma folks. Not only have they battled tornadoes, but in 1995 there was the horrifying Federal Building bombing that killed 168. After speaking I was able to see the Memorial and the 168 monument chairs in memory of each person, placed in areas near where they worked in the building. I took the picture below of the reflective waters. The chairs are to the right.


The chairs are hand-crafted from glass, bronze, and stone represent those who lost their lives, with a name etched in the glass base of each. They sit on the site where the Murrah Building once stood. The chairs represent the empty chairs at the dinner tables of the victims’ families.

The chairs are arranged in nine rows to symbolize the nine floors of the building; each person’s chair is on the row (or the floor) on which the person worked or was located when the bomb went off. The 19 smaller chairs represent the children killed in the bombing. Three unborn children died along with their mothers, and they are listed on their mothers’ chairs beneath their mothers’ names.

Across the street from the 9:03 gate (9:03 represents the first moments of recovery) is this picture I took of a sculpture of Jesus weeping erected by St. Joseph’s Catholic Church, one of the first brick-and-mortar churches built in the city. Jesus faces away from the devastation, covering his face with his hand. In front of Jesus is a wall with 168 gaps in it, representing the voids left by each life lost.

My time in Oklahoma was a moving experience to me. I could feel a spirit of resiliency. It could be best summed up by these words from Neil Arter, Vice President for Student Life at Oklahoma Christian University:

“Oklahomans have a determined mindset in the face of tremendous obstacles. Everyone has said, ‘We’ll recover again. Let’s buckle down and do it.’ There is no discussion of “if,” just of how long it will take. Folks in Oklahoma don’t wait for others to clean up. We simply get after it.”

Charlie Adams

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(special thanks to Oklahoma native Davonna Bajema of Oklahoma City for driving me all around Moore, Norman and Oklahoma City)

Charlie Adams Motivation

Equipping organizations and people with the attitudes to be positive, solution centered and dedicated to seeking excellence!
“How to Build a Positive Attitude an
d KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered. The picture below is how this program was utilized at the Oklahoma ORA Conference

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Direct line: 574. 807. 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

July 19th, 2013
The most positive athlete I ever interviewed takes dead aim on America’s lack of fitness!
by Charlie Adams

My books and talks are based on the thousands of interviews I was able to do with peak performers during 23 years in television news. As I have said before, the most positive person I ever interviewed was Brett Eastburn, who was born with no arms, no legs and according to him no disabilities or handicaps.

The most positive athlete I ever interviewed was professional golfer Gary Player – by far! From time to time I write about Gary here, as he continues to make news..and waves. Turning 80 in a couple of years, he recently posed for the annual ESPN the Magazine body issue, which shows athletes nude but in a tasteful way.


(courtesy ESPN the Magazine)

Player did it to bring awareness to the staggering problem America has with lack of fitness and obesity. Commitment to fitness and nutrition was a key reason Player is the only professional golfer in history to win every major championship in golf on the regular PGA Tour and the Champions Tour (the pro’s over 50). Jack Nicklaus, Tom Watson, Arnold Palmer could not match him, primarily because he was superior in fitness.

In an interview with USA Today, Player had some harsh things to say about fitness in America.

“America is maybe the most unhealthy nation in the world because they live on crap. They’ve got the best food in the world, the best farmers and the best food but they live on crap. When [British chef] Jamie Oliver went to America he went to areas where children never had cabbage or broccoli or spinach or vegetables in their life. People giving their children a soft drink and a doughnut to go to school. No wonder academically they’re affected.

55 percent of the greatest country in the world is obese? How can you compete against the Chinese? You haven’t got a chance! People that are lean and mean and working hard and producing maybe 100 engineers to every two or three that you produce. Kids that are learning like crazy at school and spending hours learning. You go to Korea and those kids finish school at 7 o’clock at night because there’s no sense of entitlement. It frustrates me because I happen to have 15 American grandchildren. I love America (Player is from South Africa) but I get so upset at the way I see the obesity. I just don’t see how the healthcare system can work. I pray it does but I just don’t see how it can work with this tsunami of obesity.”

The trouble with Americans is they don’t appreciate America enough. They are just spoiled rotten. The young people want things for nothing. The thing that made this country so great is that people got off a boat from Europe and had nothing, and they built the greatest country in the world through hard work.”

Player does 1200 sit ups or core crunches every day, even at age 77. He says the core is the most important muscle area in your body. “No question, your core,” he told USA Today. “That holds your body together. Most people my age haven’t seen their private parts in 10 years because they have such a big stomach. And they never will again.”

I interviewed Player at The Masters in the 1990’s when he was in his 60’s. I covered The Masters for five years and spent a lot of time observing him and listening to him. His positive attitude and commitment to fitness stand out. Through a combination of what he had to say to me and others, here is his perspective:

“Every morning when I wake up, I make a conscious decision to have a good day, to find the good in people and to have a positive impact on everyone that I come into contact with. This attitude has helped me throughout my golfing career, where I was perhaps not the most talented, or the biggest or the strongest, but I certainly had the determination to succeed.

Now that I am in my 70’s, there is no reason to change this way of thinking. Perhaps my days of winning major championships are over, but making a difference in people’s lives is not. If more world leaders could find a way to lead their people this way, perhaps we would have fewer conflicts around the globe. Now wouldn’t that be wonderful?” — Gary Player

His three favorite books: The China Study (nutrition), The Power of Positive Thinking (Norman Vincent Peale), The Holy Bible

Just a few years ago, he told BBC Learning English his role models were Sir Winston Churchill, former South African President, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa of Calcutta. “What all these people have in common is that each one of them was or is a very positive person, looking to overcome adversity rather than succumbing to it.”


Player, who is now a successful businessman,
attributes his success in life to these ten commandments he follows:

1 Change is the price of survival.

2 Everything in business is negotiable, except quality.

3 A promise made is a debt incurred.

4 For all we take in life we must pay.

5 Persistence and common sense are more important than intelligence.

6 The fox fears not the person who boasts by night but the person who rises early in the morning.

7 Accept the advice of the person who loves you, though you like it not at present.

8 Trust instinct to the end, though you cannot render any reason.

9 The heights of great people reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but that while their companions slept were toiling upward in the night.

10 There is no substitute for personal contact.

I have included an amazing short video of Player sharing his fitness routine. When you see this 77 year old on the treadmill, it will knock you out of your chair.

ESPN The Mag Body Issue 2013: Gary Player
ESPN The Mag Body Issue 2013: Gary Player

In the How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing keynote and seminar, I do speak on fitness and nutrition. While we all can’t be as gung ho as Gary Player, every corporate, educational and church group has got to do something about this mounting fitness challenge. How you feel physically makes a big impact on your attitude and your productivity. Contact me to see how my program can help your organization take positive strides in those areas.

Charlie

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Charlie Adams Motivation

Equipping organizations and people with the attitudes to be positive, solution centered and dedicated to seeking excellence!

“How to Build a Positive Attitude an
d KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered.

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Direct line: 574. 807. 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

To order your copy now of How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing, click here

I have been bronzed!

All for a good cause — your help appreciated!
In a fund raiser for the Samaritan Counseling Center, I was recently turned into a Living Stone! I should deliver my motivational presentations this way! Many of you have seen my infamous video of me racing donkeys that I use at the start of Talks. I could be the bronzed donkey racing motivational speaker!

The Samaritan Center has provided counseling services near where I live in South Bend, IN since 1974. How it works is you vote for your favorite Living Stone, with the money going to the Center.

Click here to see all of the Living Stones, including a local weatherman as Atlas!

Charlie

July 10th, 2013
So long, flies! The solution-centered attitude strikes again!
by Charlie Adams


One of the chapters in the book and the talk “How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing” focuses on the solution centered attitude.

Over the 4th of July weekend, I saw an exciting example of that while visiting my local county fair with my kids. We went into an open air place to eat. Upon sitting down, I looked up at the beams and noticed several plastic sandwich bags filled with water and with a few pennies. I also noticed there were no flies bothering us despite folks eating hamburgers, hotdogs and the usual fair food.

I walked over to the counter and asked them what was up, and they told me these things kept the flies away. I was like, ‘Really?!”

The logic is that the fly comes swooping in and flies near the plastic bags. Because of the fly’s eye lenses the penny fragments and (to them) and looks like a spider or some kind of predator. The fly then gets the heck out of Dodge. While we were there, no flies bothered us, so when I got home I put up the picture I took on my facebook page and had all kinds of people shared examples that it works.

There’s a great example of coming up with a solution.

When I speak, I encourage organizations and individuals to take the solution centered attitude. In all the years I was in television news – which is a hotbed of stress and constant challenges – I did my best to seek solutions rather than take the “they should this” and “they that” attitudes.

As an anchor I would always go on the set a few minutes before my on air appearance, put the microphone on my tie, and wait for the floor director to call for a microphone check. Sometimes that person would forget to do it. It usually depended on the employee and how much they cared about their job.

One time they came to me live after the commercial and the batteries in my microphone were dead. It sounded awful. To the viewers at home I sounded like I was in a tin can and I had to clumsily put on a new microphone while live on the air. That destroyed the whole segment which had taken hours to produce. Rather than get negative, I immediately went into solution mode. From then on every time I came onto the set I put the microphone on and started saying, “Test, one, two three. Microphone check, one, two, three.” By doing that it automatically led that person to get a microphone check. I never relied on the floor director to take the initiative of asking for the microphone check again.  I never had a mike go dead on me again.

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After speaking in Charlotte, N.C. recently I was heading out when I glanced at the headlines of their local newspaper, The Charlotte Observer. A front page story was on the remarkable attitude of a young lady named Ellen Reinecke. As I always say, a positive attitude takes work to keep and one way is to read certain things that bring things back to perspective for you.

I bought the paper and read her story, which was written by Sarah Ellis. Ellen, just 18, was days away from graduating. Neither parent would be there, as she lost her Mom Amy to sarcoma cancer in her 9th grade year and her dad John died of a heart attack one year later.

My goodness.

Ellen moved in with a local family she knew well because that would be more stable than moving in with relatives far off, and despite the enormous grief moved forward with the courage of a giant. She recently graduated from North Mecklenburg High as the school’s Student of the Year, captain of the volleyball team, and DECA club president.

“You would never in a million years think that something so tragic happened to her, because she’s so positive,” said Tarrah Johnson, the volleyball coach. “We complain about the smallest things. And here she is, been to hell and back in my opinion, and then she still has a smile on her face.”

Ellen has a tattoo on each wrist with ‘I love you’ and signatures in her mother’s and father’s handwriting. She had them copied from birthday cards.

“What is the point about being so negative about it,? asked Ellen. “It’s not going to help me at all. I do still have days where I just mope around. But if I’m mopey about it all the time that’s not going to help me at all.”

The story said she will be off to Virginia Tech in the Fall to study to be a veterinarian.

Ellen’s story reminded me how God can work things in our lives. When I was a freshman in college back in 1980, I learned my roommate would be 30 year old Jim Hutchinson! To us 18 year old’s, a 30 year old was like a dinosaur. Every other freshman on the floor had an 18 year old roommate. I had ol’ Jim, who really was a good guy even though we needled him by calling him Granpa. He was back in school to get a degree in Rec and Parks Administration. He was very organized.

In something that helps me relate to Ellen, my mother died in November of my freshman year at college, just two months after I had met Jim. It came out of nowhere and obviously I was stunned. I actually learned about it when I made my Saturday morning call home to her and her sister was there as they had just learned.

I stumbled back to the dorm across campus literally in disbelief. There in the room was 30 year old Jim, who was like a rock. He calmed me down, listened to me, helped pack my bags and got me to a campus official who drove me two states up to home. Had my roommate been an 18 or 19 year old, there is no way I would have been comforted as much.

There had been a reason 30 year old Jim had been assigned to be my roommate.

Charlie

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This week’s inspirational video
Blind since birth, Ril Miss became an irreplaceable employee at a hospital because of her attitude and team spirit


When I deliver How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing in seminar or keynote form, I utilize short videos I have produced. Here is a story that has resonated with audiences all over because of the infectious positive attitude and ‘can do’ attitude of Ril Miss!

Positive Attitude - Ril Miss
Positive Attitude – Ril Miss

Charlie Adams Motivation

Equipping organizations and people with the attitudes to be positive, solution centered and dedicated to seeking excellence!

“How to Build a Positive Attitude an
d KEEP the Darn Thing!!”

This keynote, or 2 or 4 hour seminar equips your people with the attitudes to be more positive, team oriented and solution centered.

* Stoke the Fire Within (peak performance keynote)

* The Spirit of Customer  Service (2 hour seminar often paired with How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing!)

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Direct line: 574. 807. 2279

Email: charlie@stokethefirewithin.com

To order your copy now of How to Build a Positive Attitude and KEEP the Darn Thing, click here

Inspirational Places to See

These short videos are designed to inspire you and give you ideas of places you may want to visit or go back to someday!

With this past week being a celebration of July 4th, here is a short video I produced of what it is like to visit Arlington National Cemetery and the Changing of the Guard. Less than 20 percent of Soldiers typically make it through training because the standards are so high.

Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, produced by speaker Charlie Adams
Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, produced by speaker Charlie Adams

 

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